Here are 7 lessons on Stop Fixing Yourself by Anthony Mello:
Lesson 1: Stop trying to change yourself.
One of the biggest mistakes we can make is to try to change ourselves. We try to fix our flaws, become more perfect, and meet the expectations of others. But the truth is, we are already perfect just the way we are. When we try to change ourselves, we are only denying our true selves and creating more pain and suffering.
Lesson 2: Embrace your flaws.
Instead of trying to fix our flaws, we should learn to embrace them. Our flaws are part of what makes us unique and special. They are also the source of much of our creativity and compassion. When we accept our flaws, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities.
Lesson 3: Let go of your need for control.
One of the biggest sources of suffering is our need for control. We want to control everything around us, including our own thoughts and feelings. But the truth is, we cannot control anything. All we can control is our own reactions. When we let go of our need for control, we open ourselves up to a world of peace and acceptance.
Lesson 4: Accept the present moment.
The only moment that truly exists is the present moment. The past is gone, and the future is not yet here. When we focus on the present moment, we are free from the regrets of the past and the anxieties of the future.
Lesson 5: Practice self-compassion.
Self-compassion is the practice of being kind and understanding to ourselves. It is about accepting ourselves just the way we are, flaws and all. When we practice self-compassion, we open ourselves up to a world of love and acceptance.
Lesson 6: Let go of attachment.
Attachment is the desire to cling to things that are impermanent. We attach to our possessions, our relationships, and our own egos. But when we let go of attachment, we open ourselves up to a world of freedom and liberation.
Lesson 7: Be present in the world around you.
One of the best ways to stop fixing ourselves is to be present in the world around us. This means paying attention to the sights, sounds, smells, and tastes of the world around us. It also means being present with the people in our lives. When we are present, we are open to new experiences and possibilities.
Till next week, stay blessed.